What Advice Would You Give a New Grad?

One year ago, we were celebrating  my daughters graduating from college (Berkeley and Northridge – very proud of both of them!!!) – don’t really remember giving them specific advice on the occasion. I’ve tried to live my life keeping in mind that I’m an example – both good and bad LOL – especially as a single Mom. Read a very interesting piece on MSNBC last week, where they had interviewed a number of CEO’s about the advice they give new college grads, which inspired me to answer the MSNBC questions in MY blog.

What’s the one piece of advice you’d give college graduates today?

You’re going to have to be flexible, probably going to work many different places in your career, not stay one place as I’ve done, so always keep your eye open for new skills or learning. Take as much career enrichment from each job as you can. Bo open to opportunities. Get yourself formal and informal mentors, network like crazy and keep your work and your life in balance.

What would you have done differently after you graduated college?

I’m pretty satisfied with how my career unfolded. Looking back, I wish I’d taken more advantage of the opportunities I had to meet people. I also wish I’d kept writing my science fiction seriously BUT, having said that, career, motherhood, widowhood, single motherhood, early grandmotherhood…all made it important to focus my energies on the job that was paying the bills and keeping us afloat. Not much time or energy left over to write until the past few years!

What was the biggest mistake you made?

Not pursuing my Master’s degree. At the time it wasn’t really required for what I did. I started it – did four courses with a 4.0 and then stopped, because my kids were so stressed by me being stressed over MY homework and going to classes 2-3 nights a week. I wasn’t available to them as much as they needed me to be.

I tell everyone I mentor at work nowadays to get their advanced degrees and/or certifications.

What’s one thing you learned in college you wish you’d listened to?

It wasn’t so much what I didn’t listen to, as I wish I’d taken more operations management classes – now  I’m a Lean Six Sigma Black Belt, but it would have been fantastic to have more of that process efficiency background early in my career.

Who was your hero when you graduated and who is your hero today?

Well, my Dad is always going to be my hero to some extent. But when I was in college my immediate hero was my husband. He came from a large, loving, but not well off family so we put ourselves through school  with a mixture of resources -his G.I Bill benefits, his partial track scholarship (which only lasted one year sadly), him working part-time, his USMC Active Reserves pay, my jobs….it was his vision and his drive that propelled both of us to get those degrees and to follow the plan he created for our lives. (I’m not much of a long term thinker or planner.) Degrees first, then house, then children….if it hadn’t been for him laying the foundation, I would have been in deep trouble when he died in an accident. As it was, I was established in my career, able to support my girls and keep our ship afloat, thanks to him.

My heroes now are the members of the U.S. Armed Forces and especially their families, who make so many sacrifices to keep this country safe and free.

So what’s the one piece of advice you’d give a new grad?

 

Six Sentence Sunday – Science Fiction Adventure Continues!

Going back to my SFR , out on submission now, set in the same universe as my recently published WRECK of the NEBULA DREAM. Andrianda (Andi) Markriss, a planetary representative for Loxton Galactic Trading, has been spending a lazy summer with her best friend in the highly exclusive summer compound of the planet Zulaire’s ruling nobility, networking. On a day when a number of strange  and disturbing things have already happened, Captain Tom Deverane, Sectors Special Forces, unexpectedly shows up with a troop of soldiers and demands she leave with him. Immediately.

Andi doesn’t take this very well….in fact, she refuses to go. Later in the evening, all hell has broken loose, as the captain predicted.
Trying to avoid spoilers here, after certain “events”, she and the soldiers are on the run. Here’s a snippet from after they either rescued someone at Andi’s insistence…or didn’t LOL and have moved on, still trying to escape pursuers.

Andi is speaking to Sgt. Wilson.

“Something’s wrong with the captain- I want you take a look at him.”

 Stopping in the middle of the trail, Wilson craned his head, trying to see the front of the line where Deverane was leading. “Sweat­ing, got the shakes?”

How does he know that? Speechless, she nodded.

Shucking his main pack off, Wilson jerked the medkit out, spilling some of the other contents onto the trail, asking, “Can you stand rearguard for a minute, until I can send Rogers back to relieve you?”

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What’s In Your Purse?

What’s in your purse? I always enjoy looking at the celebrity ones in various magazines, all that high end stuff spread out so neatly and beautifully photographed as if it just fell out of the purse that way. LOL! If I tip my purse over, there will be a flurry of mini dust bunnies, pennies, an odd aspirin or two, Ralph’s receipts and THEN the actual contents. Nothing high end. The key to my Honda Civic, the day job badge (with its very old and out of date photo), a checkbook, although I hardly ever write actual checks any more…not all that long ago I did get organized and put most of the small, annoying loose stuff into color coded mini purses, mostly so I can find my asthma and migraine medications fast.

I’m not going to add a photograph of my purse hoard to the thousands of google images (wow, had no idea how many people had shared theirs until I went looking today!). You can probably imagine what it all looks like. Recently  I was at a baby shower where we played a “What’s In Your Purse” game, with different numbers of points attached to items. I scored 201 points, out of a possible 671, which is 30%, so I guess I’m kinda average.  Alas I had no rock, no spoon, no baby food – all of which were worth 20 points each. I always used to halfway fear I’d somehow end up on “Let’s Make A Deal” and be unable to win anything, for lack of the variety in my purse.

I did have a mini screwdriver and two flashlights, which weren’t even on the list.  If I’d had a photo of the mother-to-be, that would have been worth extra points but alas, no. Don’t normally keep photos of my co-workers in my purse. I do have a photo of the character Ardeth Bey from “The Mummy” and one of Aragorn from LOTR. It’s a family joke between me and my daughters, although it was bit embarrassing once when someone asked me if I was related to them. Ummm, no.

Before motherhood, I used to carry a really small purse, or sometimes would even just go with keys, cash and driver’s license but somehow over the years my purse has morphed into something closer to Mary Poppins’ carryall than a Judith Lieber minaudiere. (ALWAYS wanted one of those, the glittery-er the better). I also carry this fantastic Betsey Johnson bag (found at Ross Dress For Less) to and from work daily, with my lunch, my kindle, my notepads for writing in case inspiration strikes on break or at lunch…

Maybe the best purse I ever saw though was the one in “My Stepmother Is An Alien”, pictured above at the start of the post In that 1988 movie with Dan Ackroyd and Kim Basinger, The Bag could whip up diamonds and designer dresses and just about anything else on demand. There were some odd cultural challenges and I think it kinda turned on the heroine toward the end as I vaguely recall. Tried to destroy the Earth maybe? The worst thing my purse does is get caught in doorways or lose things in the tiny black hole I know it’s hiding in the very bottom. Otherwise it’s very well behaved!

 

Wednesday Whimsy – Daughters

I’m the proud Mother of two grown daughters and for no reason at all other than that, decided this week’s topic for quotes and photos should be about daughters!

“As long as a woman can look ten years younger than her own daughter, she is perfectly satisfied.” Oscar Wilde

(VS sez: Actually I don’t LOL but I thought it was amusing.)

What the daughter does, the mother did. Trad. Proverb

(VS sez: Uh oh.)

He that would the daughter win, must with the mother first begin. English Proverb

You teach your daughters the diameters of the planets and wonder when you are done that they do not delight in your company.

Samuel Johnson

Good daughters make good mothers. Unknown

Writing a Story in 1500 Words

Could I write a love story in 1500 words? My chapter of the Romance Writers of America (RWA) is going to publish an anthology of short stories as a fund raiser and the Los Angeles Romance Authors (LARA) President challenged us all to put on our writing hats and submit something.

Piece of cake, I thought, since I write 500 word blog posts week in and week out, here on my own page, at work, and as a guest on other blogs such as Here Be Magic and Paranormal Romantics. How hard could it be to write a nice little story that was three times as long as a blog? I noodled around  ideas on my two hour commute (one hour in the morning and one hour in the evening unless there’s a sigalert on the LA freeways!), which is where I do a lot of plotting as I drive.

I came up with a plot set in my alternate Ancient Egypt, came home from work that evening and started writing. The words just flowed; I loved my characters – a widowed healer, her young son and the heir to the great estate on which they all lived. Oh and since the distinguishing characteristic of my Egypt is the daily involvement of the gods and goddesses, there’s definitely a hint of the paranormal. I was really getting into the narrative, had just reached the critical plot point that was going to set more events in motion…and, glancing at the word counter, realized I was already at 1745 words. My people were just getting to the good stuff, I hadn’t even brought the designated goddess into play yet – there was SO much more to happen before the Happily Ever After (HEA)!

Okayyyyy, back to square one. The work wasn’t wasted – nothing is EVER wasted for an author! I’ll definitely be back in the middle of this story fairly soon. I’m a pantser, which means I kinda dive into the writing and the plot unfolds for me as I get to know my characters better and they seize control of the action, so I can’t tell you if the tale of the widow, her son and the heir to the estate is going to be a novella or a novel, LOL!

One day closer to the deadline. Time for a new plot idea. OK, got it. Started writing. Managed to tell this new little story in 1849 words. And it was complete in itself, no further developments I had to tell. HEA in place. (Of course, me being me, I could write a LOT of additional adventures for my couple but that’s for later.) Now to chop out 349 words plus maybe a couple more to be on the safe side of 1500. Wow, all those problems with too much information dump, excess backstory, lazy adverbs – those all go away when you’re limited to 1500 words!  Every word has to count and advance the story.

I was happy with the end result. We have some very strong writers in our RWA chapter so I have no idea if my story “Lady of Dreams” will make the cut and be in the anthology or not but it was a fun exercise and I learned a great deal, plus I came out of it with that whole other story to work on and make as long as I please.

I’ll keep you posted!

Six Sentence Sunday – Science Fiction Adventure Continues

Going back to my SFR , out on submission now, set in the same universe as my recently published WRECK of the NEBULA DREAM. Andrianda (Andi) Markriss, a planetary representative for Loxton Galactic Trading, has been spending a lazy summer with her best friend in the highly exclusive summer compound of the planet Zulaire’s ruling nobility, networking. On a day when a number of strange  and disturbing things have already happened, Captain Tom Deverane, Sectors Special Forces, unexpectedly shows up with a troop of soldiers and demands she leave with him. Immediately.

Andi doesn’t take this very well….in fact, she refuses to go. Later in the evening, all hell has broken loose, as the captain predicted.
Trying to avoid spoilers here, after certain “events”, she and the soldiers are on the run. Just now the scouts have reported a party of civilians in trouble ahead. Andi impulsively urges Deverane to rescue them. Here’s his answer:

“I thought I told you—more than once—my primary orders don’t allow me the discretion to go around the countryside rescuing everyone in distress.”  Spacing out each word for emphasis, he said, “I have to get back to the capital. We’ve got vital information that could stop the entire planet from descending into war so I can’t conduct fire fights and rescue individuals. You were an exception because someone somewhere pulled a lot of rank to get special orders issued,okay?”

Biting her lip, Andi flushed and jerked her elbow away from him. I wish he wouldn’t keep rubbing it in my face that I got special treatment – I didn’t ask for him to come rescue me.

(What do you think, after a few weeks of reading this in snippets – will Deverane find a way to justify attempting a rescue?)

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